Coaching after loss
Grief is not a problem to be solved. But there comes a point, for many people, when the question quietly changes — from how to bear what has happened, to how to live what comes next. That is where this work begins.
I know this ground personally. In the space of a few years I relocated countries, lost my husband, and found myself rebuilding every part of my world — without a roadmap, and without much patience for platitudes. What I learned, slowly, is that rebuilding is not about returning to who you were. It is about finding the shape of who you are now, and giving that person somewhere to stand.
Grief coaching is not counselling, and it does not ask you to revisit the loss itself unless you choose to. It is forward-facing work for the stage when the acute weight has shifted enough to think about what your life is asking of you now — identity, purpose, practical reshaping, the parts of a shared life that must be carried differently alone.
How the work unfolds
The work follows the same three stages as everything I do, applied with particular care:
Reflect
Unhurried space to take an honest look at where you are — not where anyone thinks you should be by now.
Reset
Examining, without judgement, what belongs to the life that has ended and what comes with you — and finding honest ground to move from.
Renew
Building, gradually and deliberately, a picture of a life you can genuinely want — not a replacement for what was lost, but something of your own.
Who this is for
- You are past the earliest weeks or months, and beginning to ask what comes next
- The practical rebuilding — home, purpose, identity, routine — feels larger than the advice you're being given
- You have (or have had) counselling for the loss itself, and now want structured, forward-facing support
- You are functioning well on the surface, and privately unsure what your life is now for
Practical matters
Sessions are one-to-one and entirely confidential, in person in the Cotswolds or by secure video call across the UK. A Single Consultation is £250; longer arrangements — The Journey (six sessions across three months) and The Ongoing Partnership — are agreed individually. Every engagement begins with a free initial consultation.
Common questions
Is grief coaching a replacement for bereavement counselling?
No. Counselling works with the loss itself; coaching works with the life that has to be built around it. Many clients come to coaching after counselling, or alongside it. Where clinical support is what a moment requires, I will say so plainly.
How soon after a loss is coaching appropriate?
There is no fixed timetable, and I would never suggest one. As a guide: coaching is most useful once the question of what comes next has genuinely started to matter to you. The free initial consultation is a good place to establish whether it is the right time — and it is an honest conversation, not a sales one.
Do you only work with people who have lost a partner?
No. Loss takes many forms — a partner, a parent, a marriage, a health, a version of a future. The work is shaped around your circumstances, not a category.
You will not leave this work “over” your loss, and that is not its aim. What clients tend to leave with is a clearer view of their life as it now stands, and a considered way forward within it.
Begin with a conversation
Thirty unhurried minutes, by video call, at no cost — to talk through where you are and see whether this is the right way to work together.
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